The Art and Practice of Oral Sex on Women
A He Said, She Said Post from Rebekah and Trevor

Whether you are a fan, or not, an aficionado or just starting out, here are our thoughts, on a common practice in the intimacy smorgasbord. . . PLEASING YOUR WOMAN ORALLY.

Trevor says:

I love eating pussy.  I would say it’s one of my favorite sex acts, in fact it rivals penile penetration. I have this rule in my head. I’m not going to stick my cock anywhere I’m not comfortable putting my face.  I’m constantly amazed when I’m told by women that there are men out there that don’t “do that.” The way I perceive it, I like oral sex on myself, so it’s only fair if I return the favor.  But, fact of the matter is, I really enjoy it. I like the tastes, the textures, the feel of it; every bit of a woman’s emotional state can be felt when you have your face buried between her legs.

Ladies, when I take your flesh into my mouth, I can feel your heartbeat.  I can tell when it quickens because I’ve done something to you.  I like the texture of the lips as they slide in and out of my mouth. I can feel the wetness increase when I’ve caused pleasure and the sounds that escape a woman’s throat…

…during oral is the greatest of aphrodisiac to me.

I will admit there is a bit of a power dynamic here.  If I’ve done my part well (and I haven’t had any complaints) I like the power trip of knowing I could bring a woman pleasure.

And every woman is DIFFERENT! Every pussy tastes, smells and feels different. Each is a unique and wonderful experience to have. Listen up guys: the secret to performing good cunnilingus is to build up your stamina. Buy three packs of gum and chew them all in a day. Do it for three days in a row to build up your jaw muscles.  Find out what she likes by paying attention, to her subtle cues, not just sounds, but heat, breathing, moisture and movement.

Rebekah says:

Some of you might be thinking, this is a no-brainer. Everyone loves oral sex. Well, actually, I know lots of people who don’t. Reasons to not receive range from fear of smelling bad, to feeling too sensitive or vulnerable. I enjoy oral receiving, although often I am a bigger fan of manual stimulation, because fingers are more sensitive. Licking is more of a broad skill.

Before intimacy I always go freshen up first so I’m not worried about smelling bad. I think this might all be in women’s head’s. As anyone who has been watching Orange is the New Black knows, there are men who buy worn panties. I think the pheromones in a woman’s juices actually drive men wild, and we have just been brainwashed into thinking that the natural smell of a woman is repulsive by companies trying to sell vaginal deodorants.

But if this is you, wash first (just with water, no soap or chemicals to muck up the taste). If he is prissy about taste, use coconut oil or honey. When it’s happening, don’t be afraid to engage all your senses. I love looking down at the top of my lover’s head and hearing him moan his excitement into my pussy. At the same time, I miss being able to gaze into their eyes. I miss the touch of their lips on mine, so I might rub my own lips, or stimulate my own nipples.

Done right, oral sex takes me over the top, fast. Sometimes too fast, and then I become sensitive to touch, and we have to stop. What I usually like best is a long slow ride. The sixty-nine position really inflames me, but let’s face it, it’s harder to concentrate when both people are trying to simultaneously give and receive pleasure.

So I suggest ladies, you lie back and enjoy. Get comfortable receiving, knowing that your pleasure is their pleasure. If your lover is not finding the right spots or strokes to stimulate you the way you want, try using my POP Cycle to orient them. A note to guys, the worst sin is thinking you already know it all. Every woman is different, and each of us might like certain things on certain days. Be willing to ask for guidance. Find out what she likes.

Final Thoughts:

Cunnilingus is something that can be enjoyed and negotiated between partners, like anything else. Try it a few times. If you don’t like it, don’t keep doing it, but don’t let fear of being inadequate either as a receiver or giver get in the way of the exploration.

Where do you stand? Let us know in the comments!