There is a Taoist saying, “There is so much to do. There is so little time. We must go slowly.” This simple philosophy can be applied to all areas of our lives, and nowhere is it more true than our sensual lives. In our culture, we rush everywhere. We fill our calendars because, heaven forbid, we might be bored. I’m as guilty of this as the next woman. Husband, puppy, two kids, two businesses, I have so much to do and it seems like never enough time. But have you ever noticed how things happen when you rush? You spill your coffee, put down your keys and then forget where they are? Going slowly for me means getting present to my everyday activities, rather than rushing through them. And as I get present, I awaken my senses, and THAT increases my sensuality.
Try this exercise the next time you brush your teeth. Don’t treat it like something you have to get out of the way, in order to really get on with your day. Act as if you are being graded on getting every bit of plaque. It matters that you clean every inch of your enamel. Notice how much pressure it takes to squeeze out the right amount of toothpaste on the brush. Inhale the crisp minty smell. feel the bristles as they whisk across your teeth, your gums. Taste the peppermint, feel the tingle. How do you sound when you rinse, are you a gargler or more of a swish and spit? And look at yourself in the mirror, and find something to approve of about your face.
That’s it. Two minutes. You’ve awakened all your senses of touch, smell, taste, sight, hearing and conceptual thought. If we make this a practice in every day life, it becomes that much easier to do in the bedroom where experiencing all there is to enjoy is key.