In my last posting I described some of the benefits of BDSM as a part of your sexual bag of tricks.

In this article, I’d like to specifically address the advantages of seeking a professional, experienced coach in your journey to sexual awakening.

Primarily, the greatest advantage is safety.  While sex has its inherent dangers, BDSM brings a host of additional concerns.  Like any adventure, you want to be well versed in the use of new equipment so that you can get the most joy out of it. You’ll want to learn proper use and care for kink equipment so that it lasts. And with so many different kinks, having a guide to take you through them can make the overwhelming choices much more fun to navigate.

Let’s talk about safety…

Safety can also mean emotional safety.  While it is important to be physically safe, we seldom feel free to enjoy ourselves fully if we don’t feel emotional safety.  During sex, we are at our most vulnerable, and that is when we can experience things the deepest.  If you are not feeling 100% safe, then it is much more difficult to let go of the shields we build up every day to keep ourselves protected from the world.  With a professional BDSM Coach, you have the guarantee of both physical and emotional safety.  Together your professional and you can navigate the new areas you’re interested in exploring, safely, and with the most fun possible.

With any new sexual adventure, there often comes the emotional turmoil afterwards.  Our society has not really prepared us for facing our true sexual desires.  The Media and press have told us that certain things are normal and certain things are taboo or shameful.  With the help of a trusted professional, you can now learn to enjoy your desires and start to remove the conditioning and shame that our society has built up around it.  The simple act of masturbation has been a source of shame for many people in America, despite evidence that it is not only normal and healthy but that 99.9% of people enjoy doing it.  From masturbation to bondage, to anything you can imagine, as long as it is consensual by all parties involved then there should be no shame in enjoying it.  Your BDSM Coach can help you re-pattern your thoughts and accept your true self.

Are you in the Asheville area? Rebekah and I are teaching Kink Lab 101, and intro an Practicum on March 25th. this will be an excellent place to try out some new things and explore where you might find enjoyment in the kink scene.