How it began
It was a year ago today that I had my first date with Trevor. It was not your typical dinner and a movie or tea at Dobra kind of date, and knowing us, you wouldn’t have expected it to be. We had been friends for a little under two months, and on September 23, 2014, he came to my house for a Sensual Research Date. The rest, as they say, is history.
It has been an extraordinary ride so far. Prior to this relationship, I had been monogamous, or monogamish. Trevor already had 4 lovers at that time. At some point, I decided that I was going to go “all in,” despite my fears and
vulnerability. At times, I have wondered what the hell I was thinking, and yet I have never regretted my choice. At the risk of making you all fall in love with him too, Trevor Jones has a huge heart, a deep loyalty and a desire to serve others. And our sexual chemistry is off the charts. He makes me laugh. He laughs at my jokes. He carries my stuff. He always says those three important little words that my feminine longs to hear from the masculine, “I Got This.” We often say that I am Shakti, the river, running wild and juicy, creating, nurturing, destroying if left unchanneled. He is Shiva, the banks of the river,the one who finds the how for my what, and sets the limits that keep me from flooding the fields, making me instead productive and focused.
Our partnership has taken Pleasure Evolution to new heights, and I flatter myself in thinking that people are attracted to our lovership. They want what we have. So we have an obligation to keep our relationship clean and thriving. We are two of the most adventurous, sex-positive people I know. We work diligently at our communication. We play as much as possible. We dance around the kitchen while we make dinner. When we are working, we strive to reach people who want to be more alive, more sexually self-expressed, more vital, more AWAKE. We get totally excited about our next course, the growth of our students, the buzz of the next event, and that is part of how our love for each other expresses. this is how we have a good time. We never lack for something to talk about.
Not Just for US
With Trevor, I get to be more fully myself. I also get to be the person I want to be, loving, accepting, generous, secure and confident. You can have this too. You are not too old, too fat, too thin, too shy. We are living proof of all that is possible when you get clear about who you are and what you want. This celebration wouldn’t be complete without a word of gratitude to my metamours. My relationship with Trevor is not great in spite of you, it is so because of you. You touch his heart in ways that I do not, and you are my allies in loving him, using him, and filling him up. I know it isn’t always easy be one among several, because some days that’s how I feel too. Thank you for sharing in this busy life we lead.
I don’t know what the future holds. Do any of us? We are polyamorous, and there are other lovers in our configurations, and perhaps more who will come into our lives. For everyone reading this, all I know is that tomorrow is not promised. Seize the day and love as hard as you can for as long as it’s fun.
Thank you Trevor for this extraordinary life. I am blessed to love and be loved by you. Happy Anniversary to Us.