Honey, we need to TALK – The Relationship Maintenance Conversation


He Said:

I don’t know about other men, but one of the phrases I hated to hear my girlfriend say was, “We need to Talk.”

You could hear the capital T in the word and you knew this wasn’t going to be a fun conversation about the latest television show or what’s happening in the Olympics. I knew this was going to be a deep and long conversation; most likely involving me finding out I had done something, or many things, wrong. It seemed like a prelude to an argument and definitely didn’t put me in the mindset to work on my relationship. It was years later, before we began what I came to call Relationship Maintenance Conversations, or RMC’s.

She said:

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Oh, those Men. Our partners try to understand us, as we grapple to understand ourselves. Even when we think we have it all handled, someone comes along  and finds there are motivations deeper than we thought. In my 43 years of studying philosophy, psychology, and well, ME, I have a theory. There are at least three parts to a man, and I’d like to share my thoughts about that.

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A Word about Men’s Underwear

You Never Get a Second Chance to Make a First Impression!

Today’s writing is purely opinionated and I offer a trigger warning, specifically to the very men this post addresses.  In my time with Pleasure Evolution, I’ve had the opportunity to facilitate Play Parties and clothing optional workshops, as well as attend events by other sex positive and sex permissive educators.  I’ve observed a bothersome trend I’d like to speak to, and make my opinion known. I’m referring to UNINSPIRING MEN’S UNDERWEAR.

dressVery often at an event, even ones where clothing will be blazerremoved and sex may occur, people put extra effort into their wardrobe.  Nice shoes, pretty dresses and hair that could have come from a salon commercial are evident on the female presenting people.
They may have had a manicure/pedicure and spent extra time on their makeup.  Often the male presenting people also dress to impress with pressed shirts, freshly shaved,  a stylish blazer or tie and classy shoes.

And then the clothes come off…

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