Head, Heart and Hard-on

Talking and Relating to Men

Oh, those Men. Our partners try to understand us, as we grapple to understand ourselves. Even when we think we have it all handled, someone comes along  and finds there are motivations deeper than we thought. In my 43 years of studying philosophy, psychology, and well, ME, I have a theory. There are at least three parts to a man, and I’d like to share my thoughts about that.

How Men Make Decisions?

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A Word about Men’s Underwear

You Never Get a Second Chance to Make a First Impression!

Today’s writing is purely opinionated and I offer a trigger warning, specifically to the very men this post addresses.  In my time with Pleasure Evolution, I’ve had the opportunity to facilitate Play Parties and clothing optional workshops, as well as attend events by other sex positive and sex permissive educators.  I’ve observed a bothersome trend I’d like to speak to, and make my opinion known. I’m referring to UNINSPIRING MEN’S UNDERWEAR.

dressVery often at an event, even ones where clothing will be blazerremoved and sex may occur, people put extra effort into their wardrobe.  Nice shoes, pretty dresses and hair that could have come from a salon commercial are evident on the female presenting people.
They may have had a manicure/pedicure and spent extra time on their makeup.  Often the male presenting people also dress to impress with pressed shirts, freshly shaved,  a stylish blazer or tie and classy shoes.

And then the clothes come off…

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[VLOG] Relationships are hard, but they’re worth it

Watch out world, we have figured out how to use Facebook Live! Here are a few minutes on why being in relationship is challenging, and how to communicate when it is.

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Happy International Sex Worker Day!

June 2nd is International Sex Workers Day

Today is International Whores Day. This is not to be confused with International Sex Workers Rights Day (March 3) which is more commonly celebrated in North America. International Sex Worker Day was established in 1975 following a protest staged by 100 prostitutes in Lyon, France. The women occupied a church to bring attention to their exploitative living conditions and brutality at the hands of police. After an 8 day sit-in, the police stormed and cleared the building. The action sparked a national movement that spread through Europe and then the rest of the globe. While not exactly fodder for backyard barbecues, the holiday is meant to bring awareness to a human rights issues. The right of people to express themselves sexually, and the right to work at a job of one’s choosing free from the arbitrary moral judgments of those in power. Sex workers are often subjected to violence that because of their professions, they have no recourse to prosecute. They are affected by housing discrimination, and lack of access to healthcare and other protections.

What’s a Sex Worker?

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Frolicon 2016: The Naughty Side of Paradise -Lessons Taught and Learned

Our Experience at Frolicon 2016

For those not familiar with the convention, Frolicon: The Naughty Side of Paradise, it is a kink convention held each Spring in Atlanta, GA.  Imagine 2500 individuals  with a diversity of interests in alternative sexuality and lifestyle taking over a swanky hotel. Ranging from curious to experienced, they look like any other professional convention except that it is not unusual to see people in corsets, wings, latex, or furry costumes. Some people are naked or proudly sporting bruises, brands and frolicon 2016piercings. They are all genders and no gender, and every stripe on the relatiolnship and orientation spectrum. For three days, there are classes, and entertainment, and discussion groups or panels. Vendors sell everything from books to electric stim kits. It’s adult fun on many levels, and Pleasure Evolution was thrilled to be invited back this year to teach.  Last year we held a Being Social and taught one class. This year we held a Being Social and taught 3 classes.  It was fantastic fun!

We had the chance to  not only meet some great people, but to hear and interact with other professionals and presenters that were there. If you’ve never been and are curious about kink and lifestyle experiences, we highly recommend it. Classes ranged from How To on everything from rope to pole dancing, to discussions on how be a trans ally or how to get your book published.

What We Learned

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