The Profound Message of Sausage Party

A Review of the Movie Sausage Party (spoiler alert)

Yeah, you read that right. Some (the more genteel among you) are probably wondering what the heck is Sausage Party? It’s an animated film released in 2016, voiced by a bunch of celebrities including Seth Rogen, Kristen Wiig, and Salma Hayek. For those of you who have seen the movie, you are most likely thinking “Profound message! WTF?”

Yes, this cartoon was clearly written by people under the influence of serious amounts of marijuana. It is laced with the F-word at least once per sentence. (But so are the plays by very highbrow David Mamet). The plot tells the story of a mega supermarket where the food is actually alive. Didn’t we all suspect it? The corn sings, because they have the best ears. The ethnic foods all have the accents, and stereotypical beliefs of their culture. Yes, the bottle of tequila is drunk, and the German bratwurst march in goosestep. The whole store has one belief in common though. That the world outside those automatic doors is The Great Beyond, and the shoppers are gods that choose them for a better life. A blissful life. The lavash bread (read Moslem) thinks he will be rewarded with seven bottles of extra virgin olive oil in The Great Beyond. “My flaps will never be dry.”

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Partners in Paradise Live

We have been back almost a month from the fabulous Partners in Paradise trip, our couple’s retreat. We thought you might enjoy this video journal of our time in Costa Rica. If you are a couple wanting to increase the emotional and physical intimacy of your partnership, you will want to come with us next year. Details to be released soon at the Partners in Paradise website.

Here we are on the first day as we awaited the students

And then mid week, MONKEY ATTACK!

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Why do people like “Degrading Sex?”

Humiliation and Degrading Sex

This topic has been up lately, as we recently got a message from a man who wanted to understand a desire his partner was expressing. Basically, it boiled down to “what’s up with degradation, rough sex, or rape scenarios?” We also had a letter from a woman, who was feeling badly about how turned on she got from degrading sex. First off, science has not yet discovered why certain stimuli, over others, light up the arousal center in the brain. People are turned on by all kinds of things. So we tell our clients that no source of turn-on is shameful. If you can allow yourself to feel the arousal, then you can decide if you want to leave it in the realm of imagination, or act on it. There are a few underlying reasons that are commonly found, but the truth is, it’s just is a part of your make-up, and the more you try to repress it, the more persistent and taboo it becomes.

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Before You Give Up on Your Marriage – Try This

Saving Your Marriage 101

I love the Gottman Institute. Dr.’s John and Julie Gottman have made a lifetime study of marriage, and developed an approach that supports and repairs troubled relationships and strengthens happy ones. Their blog is always informative.

In a recent post, they listed 10 things to try before giving up on your marriage. The first and last three have to do with handling conflict in constructive rather than destructive ways. Numbers 4 – 7  are:

  • Boost up physical affection
  • Nurture fondness and admiration
  • Spend time together daily and
  • Communicate honestly about key issues in the relationship

This is what we teach at Pleasure Evolution. We believe that a strong intimate connection strengthens your relationship. Not only that, the lack of good sex can be the underlying cause of conflict. Victor Baranco of Lafayette Morehouse used to say couples were either “f*$#ing or fighting.” Energy that gets stirred up in us through plain old daily living, has to go somewhere. Sexual intimacy is a key issue that often gets relegated to the back burner. Even when a couple is communicating about other things, our bedroom life seems either too big or too small to mention. Our erotic identities are so often shamed by cultural and religious upbringing. It can feel super vulnerable to let our partner know what arouses us. Especially if that something is new to us. Honestly, there is nothing new about sex in all its forms. If you are isolated, it’s easy to feel that you are the ONLY one who likes something. Believe us when we tell you, you aren’t.

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Rekindle the Romance for Couples

Sparks into Flames

Whether you’ve been together for a year or a decade, childhood sweethearts or strangers that got caught up in a whirlwind romance, this video is for you!


Don’t wait until you’ve argued over the toothpaste for the 500th time, or whose turn it is to control the remote. Make your relationship as great as possible.  Come to Costa Rica for an exotic retreat to make your relationship the greatest it can be!

Partners In Paradise

March 4-10, 2017

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