Skills of Better Loving – Fulfilling Needs

It’s Valentine’s Day.  The official day that Hallmark and florists make a ton of money because people become willing to share what is in their hearts. What if every day could be like Valentine’s Day? What would it take for us to be willing to express love and...

Being a Better Lover Part 4 – I Will You Good

Welcome back to the series on being a better lover.  I started with the principles of loving, and then moved on to the skills, and hopefully, you’re reading these in order, because they build upon one another. And of course, the skills are the principles put into...

The Be a Better Lover Series: Skill #1 – Seeing

If you are reading this post to learn some new position from the kama sutra, you are in the wrong place, at least today.  The Lover I’m talking about, now, is the heart opened, longing for deep intimacy lover. And the skills I am going to write about work with...

Dispelling the Love Myths – Day 5 – Thou shalt be independent

This final principle of love, is usually the most controversial.  It states, “Love is a response to need.”  In this culture, we associate need with weakness and we don’t want to appear that way, because it will turn-off prospective partners. I used to be terribly...